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The Malabar Wedding Diaries – Part IV: Wedding Eve and Wedding Food

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Wow, a Wedding Diaries post after a long break!! These posts are more work than I thought ;-). I finally got a hold of the photos and was busy editing and resizing them. I’ve blurred out a few faces in these – I don’t think it’s fair to put up someone’s snap without asking them, and that would mean a whole lot of people to ask. So I went the lazy easy route :-).

Be prepared for loads of photos. Loads.

The wedding eve is celebrated with great pomp at the bride’s place, since it is actually the Mehendi ceremony. Most brides avoid wearing a saree on their Mehendi since they usually wear sarees on the wedding day. So, lehengas are generally the tochoice. This is the appropriate time for an Oppana performance, where the bride’s cousins and friends sing songs and dance around her.

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At the groom’s end too, there is a lot of fun to be had. All the women of the house get Mehendi done on their hands. Everyone dresses up and the groom’s house is decorated with lights. Here is how our house was dressed up for my brother’s wedding:



This is what I wore – a purple and dark blue anarkali with sparkly earrings.



This is my sister’s outfit – a turquoise and purple anarkali with the same kind of sparkly earrings.




And my sister’s mehendi. I forgot to click mine :-(.


The groom and his nephew decided to match each other and went for similar looking kurtas :-)


If you look closely, you’ll see that they even have similar spectacle frames, colored white on the sides.

The groom doesn’t traditionally have an oppana, but that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t get his share of fun. He is forced to sit down, surrounded by all his aunts, cousins and other female members and then he is subject to some not-so-melodious yet aggressive singing of Mappila songs. 


Looks scary, huh? Well, I’m sure the groom’ll agree J.

Coming to the food, I’ve already mentioned that this is one of the highlights of Malabar weddings, nay Malabar life. Non vegetarian food is not just popular, it is pretty much essential at least once a day. There are few vegetarians in North Kerala as a whole, and chicken, beef, mutton and all kinds of seafood are popular. Nearly every home will have fish for lunch and there’s quite a variety available too – saltwater fish, considering we live near the coast and fresh water fish, courtesy our lakes and rivers.

The basic Malabar Muslim Wedding Menu looks like this:

    1. Welcome Drink – This is usually either a fruit flavored water based drink, or an almond/pistachio flavored milk based drink and is served to guests as soon as they arrive. 
    1. Alisa/Aleesa – It is a porridge-like hash of wheat and chicken, a subtly flavored dish served with sugar sprinkled on the top. This is always served first at a Malabar feast.
    1. Biryani – Made with short grain fragrant rice, featuring either chicken or lamb. This is the mainstay of a Malabar wedding. It is as essential as the bride and the groom. I’m not kidding here. The supporting actors to this hero are raitha and pickle.

    1. Payasam – A sweet ending to a hearty meal, this could be any one of the numerous payasams available in Kerala.
    1. Sulaimani – And finally, so that your tummy doesn’t feel like a heavy rock, a light, sweet sulaimani tea to help your digestive system settle down.
This is the basic menu; nowadays, people rarely restrict their menu to these items alone. There’s also Kerala Porottas, Pathiris, Appams along with other vegetarian and non vegetarian dishes.

For the wedding eve, the menu is a scaled down version of the wedding day. It’s usually aleesa + ghee rice/veg pulao + two non veg curries + payasam.


Then there is this whole ‘Appangal’ system. These are usually traditional Malabar snacks like Unnakkaaya, 
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erachi ada,
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chatti pathiri,
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cutlets,
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etc. These are also common foods prepared during Ramadan.

When a wedding is arranged, the bride’s family sends over boxes of Appangal which are then distributed among relatives and members of the groom’s extended family. This process again takes place soon after the wedding, but this time, the boxes also include sweet meats like halwa and cake. The groom’s family then sends over boxes of all kinds of fruit which the bride’s family distributes among their relatives. Whew!!! Now you know I wasn’t kidding when I said food is an integral part of our lives!!


And after the wedding, there are salkaarams or parties held at either home for close family members, so that everyone gets to know each other a little better, away from the hustle and bustle of the wedding. These parties have pretty elaborate menus with several desserts and non-Malabari fare like Noodles and pasta. I’m going to stop now before someone comes and hits me on the head with a biryani pot. If you’re still hungry for more, check out this delightful little post :-).

So, this ends the penultimate post in the Malabar Wedding Series. Look out for the last post in the series coming soon!!

P.S. All pictures are mine, other than the ones whose sources are mentioned. If anyone has any problem with it, please mail me and let me know!

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18 comments

  1. Awesome! Been looking forward to a post from you...its amazing to see all the festivities and wedding excitement, glitter n pretty outfits:-)) Your house is lovely!
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    1. Thank you, Kalyani!!!! Always love your comments :-)

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  2. weddings are such grand occasions, I love attending them. Malayali Muslim weddings are quite different from the Hindu ones especially the food I guess. I had once attended a Hindu one and it was basically an all vegan one. The food preparations and some of the rituals of the Muslim weddings are quite similar to the Bengali ones, especially the compulsory non-veg spread. I loved your pictures I saw on FB, everybody looks grand :D Thanks for this one, it is indeed very informative. :)

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    1. I agree, I don't think there's a faster way to get to know the customs and traditions of a place or community than by attending a wedding!! In a few hours, you get to learn about the kind of clothes and jewelry they wear, the food they eat and all their cultural quirks :-)

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  3. oru kalyanathinu poya athe feelundu... thanks for posting this...

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    1. Aww, thank you Rafeeda!! Enikku santhoshamaayi :-)

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  4. Looks like I was there at wedding. Love the way you put every thing Fabida,
    Love to try all these treat
    Zesty South Indian Kitchen

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    1. Thank you so much, Swathi!! I enjoyed putting together this post too!

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  5. I am loving your malabar diaries. It seems so much of fun yet subtle.

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    1. Thank you, Swapna!! Yes, it's low key compared to North Indian weddings :-)

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  6. Pathiri, Biriyani and Sulaimani for me. Me your next door neighbour from Ottapalam in Palghat district. :-)

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    1. Ah, spoken like a true lover of Malabar cuisine :-). So glad you stopped by!!

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  7. omg.... they all look lovely.... after reading the post, I feel like i was there at the wedding :) the earrings are lovely.... and the biriyani :)

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    1. Thank you, Ramya!! I like the earrings too, although they are a bit heavier than the ones I usually wear :-)

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  8. Fabulous pics! I love Malabar food. We have a new restaurant that serves Malabari food..yaay. Your pics remind me, its time for a visit.

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    1. Thank you, Shefali!! Yes, Malabar food is really yummy, though it can be quite heavy too - good for an occasional indulgence :-)

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  9. am drooling all over this post !

    yumm yumm and yum
    and ur outfits gorgeous :)

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    1. I know, Afshan; even I can't help myself when I look at food pics :)

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