Today’s letter for the AtoZ Blogging Challenge is ‘K’ for my theme ‘A to Z of Effectiveness’. You can read more about my theme here. I’m also participating in the NaBloPoMo for April.
Kindness is one of the moral values we are taught in school, along with respect and honesty. Come to think of it, while these were expected from the children by the adults, rarely was the favor returned! I suppose no one ever thought that children deserved things like kindness and respect.
But Stephen Covey thinks otherwise. According to him, kindness is an essential requirement for developing effectiveness, especially when it comes to family relationships. He often talks about little incidents with his children, where losing his cool or forcing them never worked, but little words and actions of kindness did. Of course, this way may take longer, but the results are more lasting.
Kindness requires a certain level of selfless thinking. He says that when spouses begin to think only about what they’re getting from their marriage, they become ‘inconsiderate, neglecting the little kindnesses and courtesies’ essential to a relationship. By showing kindness to another person, however small, it acts as a deposit in your ‘Emotional bank account’, which builds trust within the relationship.
It’s not really difficult to be kind to someone; you can help with something you know is difficult for a family member; you can buy her something you know she’ll enjoy; or you can refrain from saying things that you know will hurt her. All these seemingly small things go a long way in building an effective relationship, one that proves beneficial to the whole family.
Do you consciously make an effort to be kind in all your relationships? Or do you receive regular doses of kindness from anyone in your family?