Today’s letter for the AtoZ Blogging Challenge is ‘N’ for my theme ‘A to Z of Effectiveness’. You can read more about my theme here. I’m also participating in the NaBloPoMo for April.
In recent years, ‘No’ has become a positive word. We are being asked to say ‘No’ to things we don’t want to do, popularity be damned! We’re told to build ‘Not To Do’ lists which some say are more effective than To Do lists. There seems to be some truth in it too, as not doing a lot of things frees up so much time!
As cute little two year olds, we say ‘No’ a million times a day, and as we grow we realize that we’re not adorable enough for people to smile when we say ‘No!’ to them. But Stephen Covey says in ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ that we’re always saying no to something or the other. If I say ‘yes’ to a gossip session with my neighbor, I’m saying ‘no’ to my reading time. If I say ‘yes’ to a TV soap in the evening, I’m saying ‘no’ to playtime with my son. In the end, it all boils down to priorities.
We often say yes to something that seems good at the moment. But Mr. Covey says that ‘good is the enemy of best’. If we have our goals figured out, then they are the best, the highest priorities that should automatically eliminate everything else. On a daily basis, we say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ to many things, and some of them have probably become automated responses. From now on, let’s pause a moment before each decision and see if it’s worth saying ‘yes’ to. I know, it’s easier said than done, but it’s worth a try!
Are you good at saying ‘No’ to anything that isn’t high priority? Even if you have to refuse someone you know?