Today’s letter for the AtoZ Blogging Challenge is ‘T’ for my theme ‘A to Z of Effectiveness’. You can read more about my theme here. I’m also participating in the NaBloPoMo for April.
There have been many times when I get angry with my six year old for something he’s done, and then I say something which makes me stop in my tracks and think: “Oh my God, that’s what my Mom says!!”
I’m sure this isn’t an experience exclusive to me and most people probably find their parents’ words coming out of their mouths! It’s natural enough; we involuntarily imitate a lot of our parents’ behavioral patterns – no biggie there!
But for kids who’ve been abused by their parents, it is a big deal. Research finds that majority of abused or neglected kids grow up to exhibit the same kind of behavior in their adult lives. That’s what happens if nothing is proactively done to change their behavior and this is exactly what Stephen Covey means by becoming a ‘transition person’. In his book, ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’, he says that we can make an effort to change this kind of negative pattern and empower ourselves to bring about a positive transition. This is also a great example of making your behavior a part of the circle of influence by taking it into your own hands.
As one can imagine, this is certainly not easy, which explains the research results. However, there are also several instances of abused people who go on to become activists against the kind of violence they were subject to. These people are true ‘transition people’ – people who break free from what appears to be the natural progression of things. They exhibit such immense strength to break the vicious cycle that is simply awe-inspiring!!
Do you consider yourself a transition person? Has it been an easy journey?