Today’s letter for the AtoZ Blogging Challenge is ‘I’ for my theme ‘A to Z of Effectiveness’. You can read more about my theme here. I’m also participating in the NaBloPoMo for April.
Do you know a person who is pretty successful in her field, but still takes time out to help other people? I know a few people like that and I marvel at their selflessness. They could consider it a waste of valuable time that they could use to further their own business/growth. Or they could be threatened by people who might turn out to be competitors in the future. But such people don’t think in that manner, for they have truly mastered the concept of interdependence.
In ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’, Stephen Covey talks about the Maturity Continuum, a natural progression from dependence to independence to interdependence. While he does propagate individual independence, he thinks that the modern world puts too much importance on it, resulting in troubles within families, organizations and any kind of team. While becoming independent may give a temporary high, there’s only so long you can go before you don’t need someone’s help and support. Interdependence is not just the way for the world to move forward; it is also the way to lasting personal success.
You often hear of people who claim to be ‘self-made men’. But is that really possible? Wouldn’t this man also have had all kinds of help along the way to the top – probably some that he doesn’t even know of? We haven’t been programmed to live in isolation; and as long as we don’t accept this, we lose out on a lot of things – love, friendship, opportunities, learning etc.
One can become interdependent only after independence; you need to have the ability to stand on your own before you can make a contribution to a team. And when you acquire the maturity to put aside your ‘self’ and look at the big picture; that’s when you feel truly effective.
I’m on the journey to independence!! Where do you see yourself on the Maturity Continuum – Dependent, Independent or Interdependent?